Pleasure vs. Pain

When we genuinely and completely want to do something, we will do it.  It’s as simple as that.  We have the power to accomplish anything we set our minds to.  That’s not just something our parents or teachers said to us to boost our confidence…it’s true! 

Motivation is about what is less painful.  The feeling of doing it, or the feeling of not doing it?  Because what feels “easier” becomes what is the least painful, sometimes we lose sight of what is really important.  In order to get or to stay motivated, we fist have to identify what we want, and then DECIDE we are going to do it.  This expands into all areas from losing weight, quitting smoking, cleaning the house, learning a new skill, developing a relationship.  Identify what is important, and just go do it.  Break it down.  I want to feel motivated to “fill-in-the-blank.”  Ok, what gets in the way or stops me from doing that?  No time, get too distracted, kids need me, have to work, too tired.  Ok, what will it take to “fix” each of the roadblocks you have identified?  Create a schedule (time management), turn off the TV and establish limits for computer usage (personal distraction factors), organize plan things around your children’s needs and your work schedules (external distraction factors), go to bed earlier (you get the idea).   Some people benefit from making a list or creating a schedule.  I know that when I found myself losing sight of what I had determined I needed to do in a given day, I started writing a “To Do List” every morning.  Keep in mind, it is equally as important to recognize what is NOT important to you, and then let yourself off the hook for those things to avoid the pitfalls of self-sabotage.    

Once you have a clear picture of what is important or what you want to accomplish, and then identify what it will take to get you there.  DECIDE you are going to DO IT!  When the urge comes to NOT do what you have decided to do (i.e. cheat on your diet, not exercise, not clean up a mess in the kitchen), you are not following your own plan.  You are being an insubordinate to YOU.  If you think of your well-being as a business, and one of your employees (you) was blatantly and repeatedly defying the instructions you gave, what would happen?  You would not tolerate that type of behavior from someone else, so why accept it from ourselves?

If you are not clear on your desire to do something, it’s possible you won’t do it unless forced by external factors.  In other words, you won’t do it until you have to.  The accountability factor can be motivating, but we can work around that if we don’t have the spark within us to accomplish or achieve something.  And, if we use accountability as our only source of motivation, we will lose all momentum once the accountability factor is removed.  Then what?  We need to firmly establish a motive from within, because ultimately it is from within where we find the true source of inspiration necessary to sustain us along our journey.   

Again, it’s about what is less painful: The feeling of doing something, or the feeling of not doing something.  You want your backyard cleaned up, you want to quit smoking, you want to lose weight, you want to find a new job.  Or maybe you need motivation for simple tasks such as doing some laundry, or getting in the shower, or making dinner.  The bottom line is, no matter how big or important the task, we have to do the work to get the results.  The best laid plans are useless without action behind the words.  As human beings, it is easy to gravitate to the path of least resistance, but we need to stay focused on the end result and not get lost in the immediate pleasure of giving in to what appears to be easier.  Instead of thinking about how hard something is, how much we don’t want to do it, how bad something feels, we need to remember and focus on how good it will feel once it has been accomplished.  Focusing on that good feeling breeds opportunities for more good feelings.  Think of how satisfied you will feel knowing that you have been productive and accomplished what you declared you wanted to do!

Your innate power and strength is all you need to serve as your motivation.  Decide what is important, and then DECIDE you are going to do it.  Ready?  1, 2, 3….GO!